My husband and I were headed for divorce, we wanted to stop divorce. An acquaintance gave us the Light Her Fire and Light his Fire Tape sets and we both listened to it. We never did get the divorce and this year we are celebrating out 20^th Anniversary. That would not have been remotely possible had it not been for the kindness of our acquaintance.

Once I was done, I gave it to my neighbor and it saved her marriage. I know for a fact that she gave the sets to her sister and it saved their marriage. Now I am sending information about you to my boss who is in marriage counseling and about ready to file for divorce. Just like the film that Helen Hunt starred in called, “Pay it Forward,” I’m sure you have no idea how many people’s lives you have changed.

My husband’s fortieth birthday was approaching and when I mentioned to a friend that I didn’t know what to get him as a gift, she gave me Light His Fire (the marriage counseling alternative). I really got motivated and instead of my usual shirt and tie gift, I was determined to ‘knock his socks off’ as you put it. I arranged to have the same friend who gave me the book, baby-sit. On the day of his birthday, I called my husband at work and told him to come to room #431 of a nearby hotel at exactly 7:00 p.m. I arrived at the hotel early and covered the ceiling of the room with balloons and put a bottle of champagne in the ice bucket. When my husband arrived, I was waiting on the bed wearing just a pair of high heels and ribbons in every color you could think of. I had bows around my neck, streamers around my thighs, and silk cords around my ankles. I told my husband that every time he took a sip of champagne he’d get to untie one ribbon.

“My husband couldn’t believe his eyes. He commented that he thought he knew me so well that he would have bet a million dollars that I wasn’t capable of doing something like this. Well, I certainly shocked him, and myself to be quite honest. It’s fun doing something different. No more shirts and ties for my husband.”

“After I listened to the women’s CD’s, I took a good, hard look at myself,” Hannah said. “I used to have a few really sexy outfits that Brad just loved, but somehow they got replaced by much more ‘suitable’ attire for the mother of two little boys.”

“One evening, I was looking at a department store catalog. I pointed to a pretty nightgown on the lingerie page and asked Brad how he liked it. He pointed to the opposite page, where a model wore a plunging black bra, skimpy panties, and a garter belt, and said, ‘I like this one a lot more.’ I just rolled my eyes and dismissed his opinion. But later I started thinking about how I’d lost my sexuality since the boys came along.

“The next day I made my big purchase. That night, after the boys went to sleep, I took a long bubble bath and came to bed dressed in the very outfit Brad had pointed to in the catalog. He was so surprised. He kept telling me over and over how sexy I looked. And you know, I felt sexy again for the first time in a long time.”

I did a search for “Save my marriage,” and found your site. I sent a text message to my husband telling him I think we need to buy your CD’s. This was a huge thing for me as I had been so against any reconciliation. However, I know that God was truly at work in my heart. My husband called, we talked, and re-committed ourselves to each other, solving our marriage problems and to working it out. I felt so free. I know it was GOD’s will as He wasn’t finished with us yet. He came home that evening, we ordered your CD’s, and things are like they have never been. We just got them the end of this past week and have each listened to 3. They are giving us each what we need…..the tools to understand what the other needs. The love was always there, but it wasn’t enough. I know the Lord led me to your site as He knew just what we needed. I have total confidence that we will be happily married for the rest of our lies. When we finish listening, I plan to share them with both my daughter and son in law as well as my son and his wife. Thank you so much for allowing God to use you to solve their marriage problems and bless the lives of so many people.- Darla M

I’ve had your program, Light His Fire for a year now. I decided to look on the internet to see if there was anything new that you had come out with so I typed in “LightHisFire.com” and there you were! What a treat! It looks like it is new so I thought I would add a memorable success story to it.  Needless to say we have no marriage problems.

Living in the Midwest, I get the mid-winter blahs extremely bad, especially being cooped up in the house with 6 kids. I played out one of my favorite fantasies. I planned a beach party! It consisted of a bottle of wine, submarine sandwiches and two new CD’s which neither of us had heard before. One had ocean sounds. I also went out to buy my husband a new pair of swim trunks (something skimpy) but that time of year I couldn’t find anything so I improvised and bought him some BVD bikini briefs. I wrapped them with a little poem that said, “Put these on. We’ve our very own beach in our bedroom on top of the sheets.” It was the nicest thing we’ve done in a long time. It cost about the same as a night out without the expense of a baby-sitter. Our 2 older children thought that it was pretty great that mom and dad were having their own little party in their room that no one else was invited to. All the kids were in bed and were tucked in for the night and I could really enjoy getting to know my husband again without worrying about the kids. (I usually do if we go out.) We actually enjoyed our food too. With 6 kids at the dinner table it’s hard to eat anything, let alone enjoy it. Anyway thank you again.

Hello, I just had to find your email address to let you know how much I learned from and enjoyed your “Light His Fire” program. I absolutely loved it! I even passed it on to my friend. I learned so much. I want to thank you for having the courage and drive to put this program together. I love your work! We have only been married for 6months and started out very, very rocky, even separated for a month. He is now also listening to the “Light Her Fire” program. I love everything your marriage advice and marriage counseling advice. We are doing much better now, thanks to you and I am more ready than ever to give my love to him the way I know how! I will use it all forever. You are great and thanks for also making me laugh on my commute to work! =) Please take care…Karen H

Just saw your website and wanted to thank you for all you do, Dr. Ellen. I can’t tell you how you have helped our relationship. We have gone from a disastrous marriage, to a loving, respectful and incredible marriage! I hope those who are wondering, will just get your programs and try them. It is so worth it! Respectfully, Kitty M.

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