Keeping the romance alive isn’t always easy.  Sometimes when you have been married for a while, things start to fizzle and tend to become kind of monotonous.  When you start feeling like this, whether you are a man or a woman, chances are your partner feels this way as well.  You need to do something to bring back that spark, and one of the best ways to do this is to be creative with romance.  Think of some exciting ways that you can surprise and entice your partner.  Realize that we all want to feel loved, turned on and excited about our partner.  We all want to feel our hearts race, and if you aren’t getting this from your partner, then your eyes may begin to stray to others that make you feel alive.  This does not mean that this other person is any better, or even more attractive than your partner it, however, there is something to be said for the excitement you feel when you are attracted to someone new, and when that attraction is mutual it is even better.  That is why it is imperative to keep looking for ways to achieve that kind of excitement with your own spouse again, before either of you wind up having an extra marital affair and regretting it.

Now you may be sitting there thinking, how can this save my marriage? Or how can this solve my marriage problems? Well, the answer is simple. Remember how you felt about your spouse when you met, remember how excited you were to spend every minute together? Don’t you think that if you felt that way again, you wouldn’t stray?

Take Linda and Kevin, married parents who had been really distant for a long time.  With work and kids things just got nutty and they really didn’t even realize that they were drifting.  Waiting in an empty school for their son to finish his basketball practice they decided to walk around the school.  Linda made a few jokes about making out by the lockers at school, and Kevin stopped her against the wall in the empty stairwell and gave her a kiss, like they were high school students all over again.  Well, needless to say they took their passionate kiss to a whole new level in a dark empty classroom.  They felt like high school kids all over again, and a new spark was ignited that they hadn’t felt in years.

So when I talk about getting that new feeling all over again, what I am really saying is rekindle the passion, find new and exciting ways to be together, and you will see that it will be like having an affair, but an intramarital one.

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